Words That Create Failure
Your level
of success is predetermined by the words you use every day. Avoid these five
"failure" words.
The words
that people use every day determine whether they will achieve failure or
success. There are five words that, in my observation, frequently show up in
the conversation of losers, much more so than in that of winners. Here they
are:
1. Luck
Although
it's true that unforeseen events can affect outcomes, it was not luck that made
the difference. It was the events.
Believing
in luck focuses your thoughts on an imaginary construct that neither you nor
anybody else can change or affect.
What's
worse, luck is an excuse that explains away failure ("It was just bad
luck") and devalues your successes ("It was just good luck").
2. Enemy
It's true
that you have competitors, and that sometimes, for you to win, they have to
lose (and vice versa). Even so, there are no enemies in business.
Enemies
are opponents in warfare, when people are killing one another. Business is
about making things better, not killing people ;-)
The moment
you demonize competitors by calling them enemies, you close off your business
options and objectives. Today's competitors are often tomorrow's partners.
3. Rejection
Wouldn't
it be nice if people always said yes to your ideas? Well, sometimes people
aren't going to like your ideas, or even you personally, for that matter.
You can
pathologize such events by thinking of them as rejection, or you can understand
that what really happened was that the other person's desires didn't match
yours.
Rather
than using a word that automatically makes you miserable, concentrate on
changing your approach or approaching somebody else.
4. Hate
I cringe
every time I hear somebody use this word in casual conversation. At work, it's
usually something like: "I hate my boss" or "I hate my
job."
Hate is a sick word, and it creates
sickness in your body. Every time you use that word, you might as well be
sticking a cancer cell in your body. Seriously.
I'm not
saying that you've got to be sweetness and lovey-dovey about everything, but
why pollute your brain by actually hating anything or anybody?
5. But
I'm sure
you know somebody who can't say anything about any idea, plan, or activity
without crutching the sentence with the word but.
It's
always something like "Hey, that's a great idea, but..." or "I
agree that we need to take action, but..." It's discouraging, and it
kills momentum.
There's a
substitute for but that actually creates momentum: the word and. Try
it next time a but is about to emerge from your mouth.
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